Chasing a Dream: Following Advice

Isn’t it hard to follow the advice of someone when you don’t know where to start?  I know that people in the entertainment industry have great insight in how to “make it” in the industry.  After all, they’ve been around it, wallowed in it, taught others to be successful, earned respect (not to speak of the ability to make a living doing what they love) and figured out a few things as fact along the way.  These people often share a lot of advice on steps you can take to find your own success.  Sometimes there’s so much of it that doing it ALL is impossible, and deciding which is the most important can be downright crippling if you allow it to be.  The trick is avoiding the crippling part; the challenge is figuring out how to take that first step forward.

The Advice Givers

Let me first speak of the advice givers (and I am not using that term in a catty way, but with the utmost of reverence for those who share their knowledge and experience).  When someone gives you advice, I realize their intention is GOOD.  I also realize they believe you can do what they’ve advised.  And I think they feel their advice is easy to follow.  For me?  Following advice is not always as simple as it sounds. Let me explain.

Many years ago as a single mother, I was given this advice by my daughter’s neurosurgeon, Dr. Vaughn Allen, as we left Vanderbilt Hospital after Dana’s first spine surgery:  “She’s going to be as handicapped as you allow her to be.”  I was 26 years old and alone with the responsibility of a child who had very serious medical complications.  While I understood Dr. Allen’s actual words, I was completely lost as to what actions I needed to take.  I had no clue how to begin to make her “normal.”

Figure It Out

It was 1982, and I could find NO books on the subject.  I didn’t know anyone with a spine-damaged child, and both Dana and I fell between the cracks in the Spina Bifida world.  You see, she was normal enough to walk where most children with spina bifida could not, and parents of those children asked me quite pointedly why I was there when my daughter walked.  I suppose it never occurred to them that I faced the same medical, financial, employment and relationship challenges as they—my child just happened to be ambulatory.  So I was on my own in parenting a differently-challenged child.  I had to figure it out.

So that’s where I find myself with the advice of “do a vlog.”  I can write; I can speak; I can record and edit videos.  I have no idea what I’ll say.  But, hey, I’ve come this far… I’ve overcome a bunch of hurdles so far.  What’s one more, right????


Your life will be much more interesting!

So I'll Just figure it out.  Thanks for being here!

So I’ll Just figure it out. Thanks for being here!


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